No, seriously, I'm bi, too. But married, and very monogamous. I'm a weirdo, I guess? I've never had any issues with people's preferences IRL (whatever floats your boat, unless you like to hurt little children sexually in which case I am not very forgiving...)
All that aside, I think my main problem has been fandom. Particularly RP fandom, as opposed to fanfic. And particularly here on LJ as opposed to other places I've RPed. Where I first began RPing, my very close friend was a co-mod, so I learned the ropes of how to write, get into a character's head, mess around with them (hee), and all that good stuff.
I got to RPing here on LJ, though, and every fandom I was in wanted to ship and slash characters right away. (That was where the "hit with the gay stick" phrase came from, actually). It wasn't that I didn't realize that yes, Spike and Angel had sex...(Joss Whedon even said so in a commentary!)
It was just that my Spike had large Buffy issues still as well as Mommy issues and Fred/Illyria issues and so he was NOT looking to go and get laid by Angel. Or Wesley. Or Gunn. I actually DID try slashing Spike with Angel in RP once (with Eric as Angel, so you would think the comfort level of doing so would be there), but it didn't work. We both laughed at how horribly FORCED it was.
And I think that was when I realized it, that everyone in fandom just seemed to be forcing the pretty men into having sex without developing a relationship or chemistry or groundwork as to how these two (or three or whatever) men would get together. I rarely see the pretty women being slashed, too, which I don't understand at all unless it's because straight women want to write about sexy men together? (Although your reason for not wanting femmeslash is interesting, since it's the first time I've heard it, and I can understand it, actually.)
Is this rambling? Probably. *L* But thank you for writing all of this out to answer a few questions for me, since no one else I know really seems to be able to do so. And thank you, also, for being a welcoming RP-er. Hopefully, I've been the same?
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Date: 2008-06-29 09:50 am (UTC)No, seriously, I'm bi, too. But married, and very monogamous. I'm a weirdo, I guess? I've never had any issues with people's preferences IRL (whatever floats your boat, unless you like to hurt little children sexually in which case I am not very forgiving...)
All that aside, I think my main problem has been fandom. Particularly RP fandom, as opposed to fanfic. And particularly here on LJ as opposed to other places I've RPed. Where I first began RPing, my very close friend was a co-mod, so I learned the ropes of how to write, get into a character's head, mess around with them (hee), and all that good stuff.
I got to RPing here on LJ, though, and every fandom I was in wanted to ship and slash characters right away. (That was where the "hit with the gay stick" phrase came from, actually). It wasn't that I didn't realize that yes, Spike and Angel had sex...(Joss Whedon even said so in a commentary!)
It was just that my Spike had large Buffy issues still as well as Mommy issues and Fred/Illyria issues and so he was NOT looking to go and get laid by Angel. Or Wesley. Or Gunn. I actually DID try slashing Spike with Angel in RP once (with Eric as Angel, so you would think the comfort level of doing so would be there), but it didn't work. We both laughed at how horribly FORCED it was.
And I think that was when I realized it, that everyone in fandom just seemed to be forcing the pretty men into having sex without developing a relationship or chemistry or groundwork as to how these two (or three or whatever) men would get together. I rarely see the pretty women being slashed, too, which I don't understand at all unless it's because straight women want to write about sexy men together? (Although your reason for not wanting femmeslash is interesting, since it's the first time I've heard it, and I can understand it, actually.)
Is this rambling? Probably. *L* But thank you for writing all of this out to answer a few questions for me, since no one else I know really seems to be able to do so. And thank you, also, for being a welcoming RP-er. Hopefully, I've been the same?
*hugs*